That banana is attracted to someone else

There are few things as exciting as the spark of sexual chemistry; That rush of heat, the butterflies, the tingling in your loins… The raw magnetism is a heady rush- you feel vital, desirable, like you’ve truly been SEEN. That feeling is empowering. Your response can be devastating.

So what do you do when you’re in a relationship and find yourself sexually attracted to someone else?

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Boundaries versus rules is an important distinction when we navigate power dynamics within relationships. A boundary is about power within me to make my decisions. A rule is about power over your decisions.

Tara Thomas & Kia Handley talk about the different types of power in a relationship, and how to collaborate to express preferences, maintain boundaries, and navigate rules or agreements.

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Image for Best Friends With Your Partner (in the snow)

Being Best Friends with your partner is about your ability to connect with each other.

It is the element that sustains your love beyond any challenge or change in your lives. Given that 69% of relationship issues are unsolvable, and 16% of those lead to gridlock, wherever we build connection we will also find contrasts.

The deepest work in navigating these differences, is discerning for yourself “can I bring grace & generosity to accepting this contrast will persist? Am I ready to engage & generate solutions? Or is this, in fact, intolerable? And this deep work requires strong friendship.

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With social media and electronic devices becoming omnipresent in our lives, how can we keep our sense of agency in the way we use them? And is their influence on our relationships a force of good, or evil? The Sugar Doctor and Kia Handley discuss the impact of social media in intimate relationships. [Includes audio & full transcript]

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How to say sorry is so fundamental to our relationships, that it ought to be taught at every level of education. Why do people find it so hard to say sorry? And what constitutes a great apology? [Includes audio & full transcript]

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Yes and No Signs for creating boundaries

How to define your boundaries is one of the trickiest things to navigate in a relationship; Even when we are clear about what our personal boundaries are, it can still be a challenge to articulate and maintain them with others. Qualitative researcher, Dr Brené Brown, says that according to her research, the primary reasons people…

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