human behaviour: 6 core needs pyramid model

This psychological framework of the 6 core needs is helpful AND harmful. It perpetuates capitalist & oppressive ideals for individuals & relationships.
While there are some helpful perspectives and relational tools, it is also crucial to be mindful of the impacts of adopting models without considering the context.

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Being Best Friends with your partner is about your ability to connect with each other.

It is the element that sustains your love beyond any challenge or change in your lives. Given that 69% of relationship issues are unsolvable, and 16% of those lead to gridlock, wherever we build connection we will also find contrasts.

The deepest work in navigating these differences, is discerning for yourself “can I bring grace & generosity to accepting this contrast will persist? Am I ready to engage & generate solutions? Or is this, in fact, intolerable? And this deep work requires strong friendship.

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One of the biggest killers of a relationship is… no fun. You know what they say; all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy! Same deal when it comes to love. It’s so easy to get caught in the day-to-day of work, kids, chores, and the mundane. You take your eye off the…

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Love isn’t only something you feel, it is something you do. It is the way you give & receive love such that your partner FEELS it. Time and time again I speak to couples who tell me that they know intellectually they are loved, but they don’t feel loved. They don’t feel appreciated. They don’t…

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We all experience the world primarily through our 5 senses; visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, gustatory, olfactory. But which of these senses is your lead NLP style? And what does that mean for your partner & your relationship?

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