SMASH THE KYRIARCHY

"In feminist theorykyriarchy (/ˈkriɑːrki/) is a social system or set of connecting social systems built around dominationoppression, and submission. The word was coined by Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza in 1992 to describe her theory of interconnected, interacting, and self-extending systems of domination and submission, in which a single individual might be oppressed in some relationships and privileged in others. It is an intersectional extension of the idea of patriarchy beyond gender.[1]

Kyriarchy encompasses sexismracismableismageismantisemitismhomophobiatransphobiaclassismxenophobiaadultismadultcentrismeconomic injusticeprison-industrial complexephebiphobiagerontophobiacolonialismmilitarismethnocentrismanthropocentrismspeciesism and other forms of dominating hierarchies in which the subordination of one person or group to another is internalized and institutionalized"

~Definition from Wikipedia 20th August 2021. Read current version here.

How Can I Learn More About Intersectionality & Kyriarchy?

This is not my area of expertise. I am a lifelong learner alongside you!

It's good to start with your own research.

  1. You can go right ahead and search "what is the kyriarchy" in your search engine of choice
  2. Search "what is intersectionality" in your search engine of choice
  3. Explore social justice education, and find social justice educators in each of those intersecting spaces. Here are some from whom I have directly paid to learn; Sharyn Holmes, Nkem Ndefo & Rae Johnson, Bear Hebert.

HOW DOES RELATIONSHIP COACHING HELP SMASH THE KYRIARCHY?

I believe that the path to collective liberation is through deeply connected & curious relationships. By developing relational self-awareness, we shift our own position in each of our interactions, thereby transforming our families and communities from the micro to the macro.

This doesn't happen by trouble shooting domestic logistics, unpacking attachment styles & family histories, or by learning good boundaries (although all of that is important)...

It requires fundamentally redefining our understanding of and relationship to: reciprocity & contribution,  productivity & money, meaning & legacy, sex & eroticism, commitment & conflict, power & consent, play & work, independence & freedom, and love & intimacy.

It's about moving toward intimate, family, and community relationships with;

  • invitations to dialogue
  • celebration of differences
  • strength based contribution
  • equity according to capacity
  • reciprocity on a broader scale than 1:1
  • collaborative & creative approaches
  • and mutual aid.

How, specifically, do YOU work to Smash the Kyriarchy?

I don't have a polished answer here, it is a work in progress and the scope of my work is my lifetime.

I consider myself to fit well within the scale of Micro Social Justice. That is for a number of reasons including;

  • my physical & mental health and capacities
  • my intensely introverted nature
  • my preference for one to one or small group interactions.

[You can read more about Micro, Mezzo, and Macro approaches to social work by doing a search on your engine of choice...]

There are some specific ways that I consciously work to smash the kyriarchy through different lenses and I will attempt to articulate some of that below if you are interested in where I stand, what I do, how that guides my work.

Please also note that this is a living document, and does not get priority for me to keep it updated. That means it doesn't always reflect what I am ACTUALLY doing, I don't always report back here on what I'm doing... ya know?

The purpose of this page is to give you a sense of my orientation & action, not a full and accurate reporting.

February 2021

Restructured the pricing of my client work so that there are no discounts for paying up front, nor for buying more sessions. I have also introduced long term, shame-free payment plans.

February 2022

I have joined my local sustainable neighbourhood group, the Toronto Area SNG.

There's lots going on behind the scenes, and I'm feeling pretty juiced about it! I'm running their IG account too which you can check out here.

February 2022

Became the very first business supporter for the Lake Macquarie Sustainable Neighbourhoods Alliance.

April 2022

ActiveCampaign emailed me to ask for a review in exchange for an Amazon voucher. They've done this twice before and twice I've given them the feedback that I wouldn't, and that I am super disappointed, because fuck Amazon.

This year I did the review, and detailed why I am switching to MailChimp who have strong Corporate Responsibility commitments. I am due to pay my next ActiveCampaign instalment in September 2022. I will spend the next 5 months prepping to migrate to MailChimp by that date, and explore whether I can have a prorated refund to make the transition sooner.

April 2022

Switched to B-corp certified book store (and fell in love) with World of Books. They prioritise circular economy, and also sell other books that aren't currently available second hand on the website.

May 2022

Started a working relationship with the delightful & extraordinary Bear Hebert. I will be doing some 121 coaching with Bear so they can guide me to be more self-aware, skilled, and strategic. We will be particularly working in the space of undoing patriarchy and anti-capitalism.

May 2022

Signed on as a monthly financial supporter for the School of Thought via Patreon to back & help launch their new projects; The Rules of Civil Conversation and a gamified platform to help people think critically about conspiracy theories.