SMASH THE KYRIARCHY

"In feminist theorykyriarchy (/ˈkriɑːrki/) is a social system or set of connecting social systems built around dominationoppression, and submission. The word was coined by Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza in 1992 to describe her theory of interconnected, interacting, and self-extending systems of domination and submission, in which a single individual might be oppressed in some relationships and privileged in others. It is an intersectional extension of the idea of patriarchy beyond gender.[1]

Kyriarchy encompasses sexismracismableismageismantisemitismhomophobiatransphobiaclassismxenophobiaadultismadultcentrismeconomic injusticeprison-industrial complexephebiphobiagerontophobiacolonialismmilitarismethnocentrismanthropocentrismspeciesism and other forms of dominating hierarchies in which the subordination of one person or group to another is internalized and institutionalized"

~Definition from Wikipedia 20th August 2021. Read current version here.

How Can I Learn More About Intersectionality & Kyriarchy?

This is not my area of expertise. I am a lifelong learner alongside you!

It's good to start with your own research.

  1. You can go right ahead and search "what is the kyriarchy" in your search engine of choice
  2. Search "what is intersectionality" in your search engine of choice
  3. Explore social justice education, and find social justice educators in each of those intersecting spaces. Here are some from whom I have directly paid to learn; Sharyn Holmes, Nkem Ndefo & Rae Johnson, Bear Hebert.

HOW DOES RELATIONSHIP COACHING HELP SMASH THE KYRIARCHY?

I believe that the path to collective liberation is through deeply connected & curious relationships. By developing relational self-awareness, we shift our own position in each of our interactions, thereby transforming our families and communities from the micro to the macro.

This doesn't happen by trouble shooting domestic logistics, unpacking attachment styles & family histories, or by learning good boundaries (although all of that is important)...

It requires fundamentally redefining our understanding of and relationship to: reciprocity & contribution,  productivity & money, meaning & legacy, sex & eroticism, commitment & conflict, power & consent, play & work, independence & freedom, and love & intimacy.

It's about moving toward intimate, family, and community relationships with;

  • invitations to dialogue
  • celebration of differences
  • strength based contribution
  • equity according to capacity
  • reciprocity on a broader scale than 1:1
  • collaborative & creative approaches
  • and mutual aid.

How, specifically, do YOU work to Smash the Kyriarchy?

I don't have a polished answer here, it is a work in progress and the scope of my work is my lifetime.

I consider myself to fit well within the scale of Micro Social Justice. That is for a number of reasons including;

  • my physical & mental health and capacities
  • my intensely introverted nature
  • my preference for one to one or small group interactions.

[You can read more about Micro, Mezzo, and Macro approaches to social work by doing a search on your engine of choice...]

There are some specific ways that I consciously work to smash the kyriarchy through different lenses and I will attempt to articulate some of that below if you are interested in where I stand, what I do, how that guides my work.

Please also note that this is a living document, and does not always get priority for me in updating the currency of information. That doesn't reflect what I am ACTUALLY doing, just that I don't always report back here on what I'm doing... ya know?

The purpose of this page is to give you a sense of my orientation & action, not a full and accurate reporting.

What is Your Personal Positionality?

I am a white, married, middle-class, educated, cis-hetero, able bodied woman, living with chronic fatigue & ADHD.

Environmental Action

I work to practice conscious consumerism.

That means prioritising purchase of ethical products from sustainable sources. This is fucking hard. You know? Like the whole The Good Place condundrum. Sometimes there is no right choice, and sometimes, I'm fucking tired and just do the easy thing.

I work to minimise my plastic consumption, to purchase from sustainable sources, and to prioritise companies with social justice missions.

Here's some stuff I like and use: Who Gives A Crap toilet paper, tissues, and bamboo towel; Zero Co cleaning & body care products; Ethique shampoo bars & moisturiser concentrate;

As a household, we contribute monthly to Greenfleet to offset our carbon footprint.

It is also written into my business plan to match this contribution.

I am learning from;

Doughnut Economics ~ Kate Raworth,

Anti-Racist Action

Education, and consistent continuous action are my goals.

Speaking up, voting, supporting and amplifying actions are ongoing.

As a household, we contribute monthly monthly to Kiva and continue to relend.

As a household, we contribute monthly to the Rhodanthe Lipsett Indigenous Midwifery Charitable Fund

We are committed to working towards contributing 10% of our household income, and actively considering & discussing our financial legacy as a couple who have decided not to have children.

In my business I am committed to paying 10% of all my business income to indigenous owned organisations.
This is currently the Rhodanthe Lipsett Indigenous Midwifery Charitable Fund, as well as contributing to specific calls for Mutual Aid.

I am learning, and have learned from;

Sharyn Holmes, Layla F Saad, Bruce Pascoe, Ruby Hamad, Sonya Renee Taylor,

Anti-Sexism Action

This is a place that heavily intersects with, and influence my approach to, and my work with, clients.

Conversations about patriarchal lenses and how they shape our relational patterns are built into the way I structure my sessions & programs, and I am actively and continually iterating to do this better.

I am learning, and have learned from;

Sonya Renee Taylor, Nkem Ndefo & Rae Johnson, Fairplay and Eve Rodsky, Clementine Ford, Julia Gillard,

 

Disability Action

I am committed to continually improving accessibility of information, premises, platforms, communication, and events.

That includes endeavouring to provide my content in multiple formats, delivering services both online and in person.

I want to note here that there are huge emotional, cognitive, and energetic costs for me in producing accessible content. As a solo business owner making a low income and navigating ADHD & chronic fatigue, I don't always have the bandwidth to do even the bare fucking minimum to write a post, or make another piece of content. I'm truly doing my best, and will ever continue to do better.

I am learning, and have learned from;

 

 

Anti-Capitalist Action

I am simultaneously living within a capitalist system, as well as exploring anti-capitalist behaviours. There is nowhere that this is more apparent to me than here, in my business.

In 2021 I restructured the pricing structure of my client work so that there are no discounts for paying up front, nor for buying more sessions. I have also introduced long term, shame-free payment plans.

I am currently (in August 2021) working through a marketing program with Bear Hebert that is specifically designed to learn how to do 'marketing' without replicating systems of oppression.

My anti-capitalist stance is something I am deeply committed to, and is currently leading me down some super interesting paths of learning!

I am learning, and have learned from;

Anti-capitalist coach Bear Hebert, Food Not Bombs, my good friend Jace (whose understanding of politics, human geography, and being a human is deeply supportive)