MEET TARA THOMAS - RELATIONSHIP COACH
Hi, I'm Tara (She/Her) and I'm a Relationship Coach in Toronto, Lake Macquarie on Awabakal Country.
I am a white, married, middle-class, educated, cis-hetero, able bodied woman, living with chronic fatigue & ADHD.
I believe that healing is relational, and that through building healthy & happy interactions on a micro level in each of our relationships, that we are able to fundamentally transform our communities.
Through my online resources, coaching, and workshops, I work with individuals, couples, and other pairs to facilitate personal & relational awareness and healing.
My call is to facilitate the experience of belonging for all.
WHY I DO WHAT I DO
I believe that the path to our collective liberation is through deeply connected & curious relationships.
By developing relational self-awareness and skills, we shift our experience within our intimate relationships and that then ripples out to fundamentally transform our families and communities.
I'm not going to bang on about my 'journey'
Because it’s not a fucking journey. It’s a series of days and weeks and choices and actions that all add up to make the sum total of your life. There are really hard bits, unfair bits and stupid decisions. And there are glorious successes, joyful moments, and wonderful people.
I don’t want to make this a page about how I did the thing and as a result now have the perfect relationship that you should all want. That’s just not true. That is a bullshit marketing lie that people tell you to make you think if you just spend enough money you can have the life you think you want... it's not real.
What I have come to believe through a slow evolution of thinking, lots of applied learning, and working with hundreds of people as their Relationship Coach, is that there is no single answer to how to do this thing we call relating.
However, there ARE a bunch of helpful strategies that will help YOU navigate your way to what works best in YOUR relationships. That will probably be different in many ways to what everyone around you does. Which is what makes it cool.
WHAT MATTERS TO ME
I’m a quiet soul. Outside of my work as a Relationship Coach, I love nothing better than to hang out with Jimmy T and my two dogs Billy & Roo Beans (um, they even have their own Insta @billyandroobeans). My three favourite activities are gardening, reading & learning, and coffee & chats. I'm a bit sweary, and think life is too short to not follow your dreams.
My values are my guiding light and I work really hard to live them, given that, they are a great litmus test for your compatibility with me.
BEING the person I want to be is the most important thing in the world to me. Relating to people and living a brave life is the hardest thing I've ever chosen to do.
What that means is: choosing to have difficult conversations instead of ghosting people or being passive-aggressive, speaking out against behaviour that conflicts with my values, setting really clear boundaries with others, and asking for what I really want.
My chosen position is to be generous in my assumptions of people. Everyone has their own personal shit-storm from time to time, and we aren't always our best selves. For me, living into this value means looking for need that is hidden within the behaviour, and bringing all my compassion into each moment.
This applies in every context of my life, from a macro level including the natural environment and long term systemic change in the pursuit of social justice... to the micro level and the daily individual decisions I make that maintain my own energy and allow me minimise harm.
I am not into massive rapid change because I believe that the energy required to maintain those changes is not sustainable, and that the impact of that change on your relational ecosystem does more damage than good.
Small iterative change over time is my jam.
- I have been a coach since 2013, and specialised in Relationship Coaching since 2014.
- Internationally Certified Extended DISC Consultant & Trainer
- Completed Level 1 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy
- Certified Practitioner Neuro-Linguistic Programming
- Certified Practitioner Deep State Re-Patterning
- Certified Instant Insight Communication Systems™ Relationship Coach
- Certified Instant Insight Communication Systems™ Sex Coach
- Trained in Alice Haemmerle’s Client Code™
- Certified Non Linear Movement Method® Teacher
- Certified Facilitator of The Wild Woman's Circle™
SO, WHAT NOW?
You've probably already decided whether you're curious about working with me as your Relationship Coach or not, and whether we're a good fit.
If you're ready to explore the next steps to working with me as your Relationship Coach, you can phone or text me on 0423 953 366, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or book a Meet & Greet call directly into my calendar.
Still have questions?
Check out my Frequently Asked Questions, or just ask the old fashioned way by contacting me as above!
WHAT CLIENTS SAY?
KIND WORDS FROM MY LOVELY CLIENTS
Working with Tara was an amazing experience. Her style of communication and no-nonsense approach to problem-solving really resonated with me. During the sessions, I learnt a tremendous amount about myself, and how relationships actually work. The experience has helped me to develop a much better understanding of how to resolve conflicts and respond to the emotional needs of others. I highly recommend giving it a go!
Tara has been the catalyst of teaching me a whole new way to love and be loved. I’m madly in love with my man and even though my relationship has been through the wringer; with Tara’s wisdom, support and wealth of knowledge, I have been able to navigate it all successfully and be even more in love than ever. I feel secure, know how to pilot treacherous waters and all thanks to Tara.
As a bi-sexual woman in an ethical non- monogamous ( polyamorous) relationship with some pretty serious deep seeded self-esteem issues, I have encountered my fair share of rock bottom moments in my relationship. Whenever I need a reality check, a wise word or an incredible technique, Tara has been there to assist me with exactly what I need.
She knows when I need to set boundaries, when I need to put my big girl panties on and be the grown up, when I need to slow down and when I need more self care. She makes me work but sure as shit knows her stuff. I cannot recommend this phenomenal human any higher. Do yourself (and your relationship) a favour and get in touch. She’s the bomb.
"Tara enabled me to see how I could build my own confidence up and the things I could change to make me a better partner. I feel I have more choices than the two I initially though I had in regards to my relationship. I also found a way to move forward and know there is more than one answer!"
"Tara was able to provide us with some really usefully and tangible tools and info to work with. The outcomes for us were that we were able to really highlight the things that are important to us and put into perspective the trivial things."
“Tara was recommended to me and I wish I had of made the time to see her sooner. I was frustrated and at a point where I did not know how to deal with what I was feeling and frustrated with myself when trying to communicate with my partner and not being able to improve things. Tara helped me identify areas that I was needing help in and gave me the tools to not only recognise when it was happening but also be able to work through it.
I would recommend Tara to all individuals and couples because she will help you be the best version of yourself and be a better partner”.