The majority of couples are faced with relationship challenges at Christmas (despite what you might see on Insta). This time of year can be so much fun! But it isn’t all reindeers and egg nog…
I can still remember the worst Christmas of my life, my ex-partner had gone on a bender and come home to trash a whole bunch of my stuff. I was freaked out and had temporarily moved out. For some dumb reason (complete lack of self-esteem) I still agreed to go to his family get together where I played happy couples all day while my heart was breaking.
Christmas time is the perfect storm of potentially explosive ingredients;
💧 Stress ❤️Family 💲 Money 🕇 Religion 🍸 Alcohol
Most relationships are handling the negative impact of at least one of these areas, many are dealing with 3 or more. Some are dropping into full blown toxic drama cycle.
To say the least, it can be a challenging time of year, and then we are all expected to paint on our happy faces and go make like we’re festive.
I swore to myself, never again. I’ve done a lot of work since then, learning how to create & maintain respectful boundaries, how to own my own shit, how to manage the expectations of others, and take care of myself. And even in my transformed life there are so many times I need to say “no thank you” at this time of year to prioritise my wellness & happiness.
I get it.
I see you, and the way you are keeping it all together for everyone else’s sake. I’m here for whatever you need;
- If you’d like to vent and get shit off your chest – drop me an email! Tell me your story of woe, and I’ll listen quietly and nod in solidarity.
- Reach out – because it’s okay to not be okay, and to ask for help. You’d be shocked at how many people are doing it tough this time of year.
- Plan to change – if you’ve been living this loop for a while, maybe it’s time to do something about it. Let’s make this year the last time you experience this.
The great thing about this time of year is you get some really fast feedback what’s working and what isn’t. Do take some time to reflect and calibrate so that you can do it better next year!
Take care of yourselves, love each other, and enjoy your break.