PRACTICAL RELATIONSHIP ADVICE IN 2022

In this blog, you will find practical relationship advice on a wide range of relational challenges.

I write about my current & evolving thinking on different aspects of relationships and how they are changing in 2022 (not patriarchal trash), as well as sharing practical tools and tips that you can immediately implement.

The 5 Invisible Friendship Rules

The best of my friendships are found in that sweet spot between shared interests & values, great communication, and aligned “rules” of engagement. That is, once we meet the criteria of being friends, the depth is dictated by the degree of match between our secret invisible criteria for successful relationships. It is definitely possible to…
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Which of the 5 Senses is Your Lead NLP Style?

We all experience the world primarily through our 5 senses; visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, gustatory, olfactory. But which of these senses is your lead NLP style? And what does that mean for your partner & your relationship?
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The NLP Communication Model in Relationships

The NLP Communication model provided me with a framework to understand how to motivate, communicate, and connect with my partner, and better understand myself.
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Help! I’m Attracted to Someone Else: How to Handle Sexual Chemistry When You’re In a Relationship

There are few things as exciting as the spark of sexual chemistry; That rush of heat, the butterflies, the tingling in your loins... The raw magnetism is a heady rush- you feel vital, desirable, like you've truly been SEEN. That feeling is empowering. Your response can be devastating. So what do you do when you're in a relationship and find yourself sexually attracted to someone else?
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Couples Therapy Newcastle: A Comprehensive Guide to Choosing a Therapist

A Google search for "Couples Therapy Newcastle" generates loads of options, so how do you decide? This piece is equal parts cynical piece for search engine optimisation, and genuine guide to choosing a therapist. Like, within capitalism my website needs to rank well, AND folks actually want help making this decision. I think if I can bring enough transparency & honesty to what I'm writing, we can both get what we need here.
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Boundaries Versus Rules: Navigating Cooperative Power

Boundaries versus rules is an important distinction when we navigate power dynamics within relationships. A boundary is about power within me to make my decisions. A rule is about power over your decisions. Tara Thomas & Kia Handley talk about the different types of power in a relationship, and how to collaborate to express preferences, maintain boundaries, and navigate rules or agreements.
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How to Navigate Polarising Issues in Your Friendships Without Being Antagonistic

Polarising issues arising from an increasingly volatile, uncertain, complex, and ambiguous world, can lead to relationship conflict or even end friendships & relationships. Tara Thomas & Kia Handley discuss a message from a listener about a friendship breakdown, and some of the issues that arise from that experience.
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The Gap Plan; How to Avoid Catastrophe When the Sh!t Hits the Fan

Would your household fall apart if you had to take a week off? A gap plan is a great way to plan in advance for the inevitable lows of life, and to put support systems in place for your friends & family. Tara Thomas & Kia Handley talk about what needs to go into a…
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Emotional Self Awareness; Unlock the Natural Wisdom of Your Body & Mind

Emotional self-awareness is one of the 3 facets of self-awareness which underpins all of the core skills in an emotionally intelligent person. This post unpacks the elements of emotional self-awareness, and provides some practical exercises to help develop your skills in that area.
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Reviewing The 6 Core Needs: Coaching and Criticisms

This psychological framework of the 6 core needs is helpful AND harmful. It perpetuates capitalist & oppressive ideals for individuals & relationships. While there are some helpful perspectives and relational tools, it is also crucial to be mindful of the impacts of adopting models without considering the context.
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An Introduction to Boundaries; A Complete Primer to Empower Your Relationships (Part 1)

Boundaries has become a real buzzword in popular psychology, and these days in almost all of my client intakes someone cites "boundaries" as one of their issues. But what the fuck does that even mean? In this introduction to boundaries we look at defining boundaries, common challenges, and identifying your strengths & gaps.
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The 4 Seasons of Love: The Natural Rhythms of Intimate Relationships

The Seasons of Love is a framework that maps common relational experiences & progression to meteorological seasons. In mapping the development of relationships to climatic seasons, we see that there are no better models or metaphors than those we find in nature. As relationships evolve, they move both in a linear fashion from their conception to their death, as well as through circular temporal and energetic cycles.
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Is Your Phone Damaging Your Relationship? 21 Strategies to Take Control.

21 Tips: From small changes (grayscale) to the big guns (k- safe), reclaim your partners attention and stop your phone damaging your relationship.
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