The Importance of an Embodiment Practice for Intimacy

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An embodiment practice is a vital component in any therapy modality. KQ, or body intelligence, allows you to unlock your bodies wisdom to release trauma,  release tension, and experience pleasure. If you ever find yourself "looping" on a problem in your mind, this is a really great cue that a daily embodiment practice would be valuable for you!

We have been shifting as a society from lauding IQ as the measure of success, to understanding the importance of EQ, and now there is a strong movement in wellness toward KQ: The intelligence of our bodies.

Here is my invitation for you to practice this simple act of love for < 5 minutes a day over the next month. If you are new to this series you can check out other The Little Things practices here.

Because long term love, depth, passion, and intimacy are built on a strong foundation of small, mundane, daily acts of love.

[Full Transcript Below]

Episode Transcript:

Hi, I’m Tara from the Sugar Doctor and welcome back to this monthly series on The Fundamentals Of Love.

It’s a series about the little things, the small behaviors that you can bring in to the world that you can layer into your life, that’ll help you to build a foundation of intimacy and connection. It’s the cumulative effect of lots and lots of little things done over time that create true intimacy in a relationship it’s not grand gestures and it’s not.- Most of the time it’s nothing to do with whether or not you have conflict or issues because, I’ll let you know a little secret, everyone does, right?

What makes the difference is the way that we connect with each other outside of those issues and conflicts that we have that allow us to navigate that.

Why Should We Do an Embodiment Practice?

This month’s invitation to you in your practice, is five minutes of movement and, I want to be really clear, this isn’t about getting fit or losing weight or getting strong, this is about being embodied, or in your body.

As I’ve mentioned before, a lot of us spend a lot of time in our heads; thinking and planning and you know, either stuck in the past and stewing on things that have happened or you know, thinking about, what’s next, what’s next all the time, and not present, we’re not so present.

Not only we are not so present in our minds in the moment, we don’t notice what’s happening in our bodies.

Which Practices Do You Recommend?

This month your invitation to practice is a daily movement practice. Now, I highly recommend two specific movement practices. They come from two mentors of mine whose work is profound, and, the simplicity of this movement practice, I think, it can seem too simple and, so sometimes the power of it gets lost.

So the two movement practices are;

  • The Movement Koan® Method which is a practice that’s been created by man called Steve James, Guru Viking, he’s put together, a practice, this is the movement practice my partner and I do each morning. We do the fifteen minute “fast floss” practice.
  • there’s another movement practice that I do daily, it’s called The Non-Linear Movement Method® and it was created by a woman called Michaela Boehm and I highly, highly recommend that you have a look at her work, if you would to purchase her book, The Wild Woman’s Way, online there’s a movement practice there, there’s a number of them in fact that you can work through in that.

Now if you would choose to go on with one of these you’re looking at maybe about 15 dollars, you know Steve has a DVD but you can download the video on the website, it’s about 15 bucks and same with Michaela’s book. There, you could get the Kindle versions so it’s, that’s what I highly recommend because those movement practices are designed to bring your awareness back into your body. In such a way that you become present and connected to how you feel.

Can I Do Any Movement or Embodiment Practice?

As Steve and Michaela always say, feeling is the ground of intimacy and so how can you be intimate with something if you can’t feel?

If you would like to design your own movement practice please feel free;

  • you might like to dance, you might choose a song that you dance to,
  • you might like to go into a weights practice,
  • you might do a yoga practice

BUT I would urge you to please while doing that practice, bring your awareness into your body and notice the sensation in your body, which is why I like to sort of move away from the workout kind of frame of movement.

Because often, even, in a yoga practice, often we are in our head, thinking about how to better do that movement, for whatever the outcome is that we usually do it and not so connected to how we actually feel in that moment.

So even if your movement practice were each day to, just lie down and sort of do a body scan, it would be an embodiment practice.

I would ask you to say how you find that over the coming month, for five minutes a day, it’s very small, start your day like that, finish your day with that, take a break during the day, and I’m looking forward to hearing how you go. I’ll talk to you soon

Practice Tips & Reflections

You know, the thing about a practice is that... well... it is a PRACTICE. That means that you may not be great at it to start. And that you may not even enjoy it initially.

My invitation to you for this coming month is to explore:

  • How does it feel to do this embodiment practice?
  • What specifically do I feel? Am I bored? Annoyed? Grateful? Joyful? Angry? Happy?
  • Where specifically do I feel that in my body?
  • What comes up for me when I do this practice?
  • How is my relationship changing as a result of this practice?

I love hearing your messages & feedback as you are implementing - let me know how you go!

Here are the links to Movement Koan and Michaela Boehm's Non Linear Movement. You can find many of the Non Linear practices in her book The Wild Woman's Way.
(I stock this book if you would like to order a copy!)