* Practical Tools *

The Little Things [Transition Time]

We juggle so many roles in life, and sometimes the time we don’t spend in consciously moving between them is the biggest obstacle to connection. This week, shift your awareness to the conscious transition from work to home. As I’ve said in previous videos; Long term love, depth, passion, and intimacy are built on a strong…
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What is a Negative Anchor? (And how did kissing become yuck?)

It was early in our relationship when I had my first experience with collapsing anchors (I’ll explain that more as we go). I threw out Jimmy T’s deodorant. I waited till he went to work and then quietly, stealthily, snuck out to the bin and hid it under some stinky rubbish. See, I have been…
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Image of Couple in Bed with Woman resting head on mans lap feeding him pizza. There is a guitar leaning against the wall.

This Waking Ritual Improves Your Relationship

Video Episode Transcript: Download video transcript here. What is a Waking Ritual? For most of my life, my waking ritual was to grumble, roll over, and catch a snooze or five! Not only am I am NOT a morning person, I also struggle with chronic fatigue and poor sleep. The call to leave bed can…
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Woman spends time apart from partner

Time Apart Will Bring You Together

Super quick tip today: Spend time apart. Many couples think that to deepen their connection, they need to spend more time together. I disagree. The key is to spend quality time together, and create a support framework that means you each get at least 4 consecutive hours every week to have time apart. That means…
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