* Practical Tools *

What is a Negative Anchor? (And how did kissing become yuck?)

It was early in our relationship when I had my first experience with collapsing anchors (I’ll explain that more as we go). I threw out Jimmy T’s deodorant. I waited till he went to work and then quietly, stealthily, snuck out to the bin and hid it under some stinky rubbish. See, I have been…
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Image of Couple in Bed with Woman resting head on mans lap feeding him pizza. There is a guitar leaning against the wall.

This Waking Ritual Improves Your Relationship

Video Episode Transcript: Download video transcript here. What is a Waking Ritual? For most of my life, my waking ritual was to grumble, roll over, and catch a snooze or five! Not only am I am NOT a morning person, I also struggle with chronic fatigue and poor sleep. The call to leave bed can…
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Woman spends time apart from partner

Time Apart Will Bring You Together

Super quick tip today: Spend time apart. Many couples think that to deepen their connection, they need to spend more time together. I disagree. The key is to spend quality time together, and create a support framework that means you each get at least 4 consecutive hours every week to have time apart. That means…
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Is Your Phone Damaging Your Relationship? 20 Strategies to Take Control.

Audio [Original recording on ABC website here] Episode Transcript: Download Transcript Here. Image from Canva Why Do We Find Ourselves Endlessly Scrolling? You get home from a busy day of work, ready for some downtime and to discover what has been happening in the wider world. You take out your phone, check, the news, check your…
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Shift gears from work to home with the daily download

The Daily Download

How do you shift gears from work to home? I wrote a great article recently about the importance of transition time , and I want to add a layer to that; The Daily Download. There is a really important place in the day when you come together with your partner to share the highlights, the…
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