* Mindset *

You Must Stop Pathologising Your Partner!

Audio [Original recording on ABC website here] Episode Transcript: So you think you’re an amateur psychologist? More than ever before we talk openly about mental health, about anxiety, depression, bipolar feelings of flying high and being pretty low, you might be more open talking about triggers and traumas and everything in between. So does that mean…
Read More

Do Unresolvable Issues Mean Game Over?

How do you know the difference between solvable and unresolvable issues in your relationship? And does it mean that you’re incompatible and should break up? Kia Handley and The Sugar Doctor talk about how to navigate conflict when you just can’t agree. [Full Transcript Below] Audio You can listen to the show live on Monday…
Read More
a woman leaning toward a man their heads are becoming trees with birds flying towards each other.

How to Choose to Let it Go: Radical Problem Solving

This Christmas I’d like to propose a radical problem solving approach. That means, choosing to behave in a way that is uncomfortable, because it expands your capacity as a lover. As someone who loves. It is so fucking easy to say that we love, because we only hold ourselves to a standard where we express…
Read More
Superhero who would do anything for love

I Would Do Anything for Love (But I Won’t Do That)

Okay, time for me to get a bit ranty again, there’s something that couples do that makes me MAD (you know, along with the other billion things I rant about!) They say “I love them so much, I’d do anything for them.” And then the truth of the matter is that’s a load of hot…
Read More
man walks past graffiti of the word courage

Choosing Courage over Comfort

This week has been full of magic for me, but I’ll tell you more about that in a minute… You know that whole to be the change thing? Yeah, well it’s not that easy. It is the easiest thing to say, and one of the hardest things I have ever decided to BE. I’ve had…
Read More