COUPLES THERAPY NEWCASTLE: THE SUGAR DOCTOR BLOG

In this blog, you will find rich discussions and ideas on how to improve your relationships. From ways to resolve issues, to how-to's, practical tools, and everything about marriage and couples therapy Newcastle, The Sugar Doctor blog has it covered.

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If you have requests for me to address specific questions in a general way (that is, I'll speak about the issue, but not your unique situation), then feel free to email me at tara@thesugardoctor.com.au

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Emotional Self Awareness; Unlock the Natural Wisdom of Your Body & Mind

Emotional self-awareness is one of the 3 facets of self-awareness which underpins all of the core skills in an emotionally intelligent person. This post unpacks the elements of emotional self-awareness, and provides some practical exercises to help develop your skills in that area.
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What Drives Human Behaviour? The Powerful Relationship Benefits of The 6 Core Needs

This psychological framework of human behaviour is helpful AND harmful. It perpetuates capitalist & oppressive ideals for individuals & relationships. While there are some helpful perspectives and relational tools, it is also crucial to be mindful of the impacts of adopting models without considering the context.
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An Introduction to Boundaries; A Complete Primer to Empower Your Relationships (Part 1)

Boundaries has become a real buzzword in popular psychology, and these days in almost all of my client intakes someone cites "boundaries" as one of their issues. But what the fuck does that even mean? In this introduction to boundaries we look at defining boundaries, common challenges, and identifying your strengths & gaps.
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The 4 Seasons of Love: The Natural Rhythms of Intimate Relationships

The Seasons of Love is a framework that maps common relational experiences & progression to meteorological seasons. In mapping the development of relationships to climatic seasons, we see that there are no better models or metaphors than those we find in nature. As relationships evolve, they move both in a linear fashion from their conception to their death, as well as through circular temporal and energetic cycles.
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Is Your Phone Damaging Your Relationship? 21 Strategies to Take Control.

There are so many ways you'll find your phone damaging your relationships. The couples I work with on “the phone thing” have three main gripes; *One person is “chatting” online, to exes, to friends or colleagues, or to others, in a way that feels to their partner like infidelity *Someone is uncomfortable with the level or type of personal sharing on a public platform. *One partner feels like there is an issue with presence, level of connection, or quality of their time together.
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3 Practical Approaches to Being Best Friends With Your Partner

Being Best Friends with your partner is about your ability to connect with each other. It is the element that sustains your love beyond any challenge or change in your lives. Given that 69% of relationship issues are unsolvable, and 16% of those lead to gridlock, wherever we build connection we will also find contrasts. The deepest work in navigating these differences, is discerning for yourself “can I bring grace & generosity to accepting this contrast will persist? Am I ready to engage & generate solutions? Or is this, in fact, intolerable? And this deep work requires strong friendship.
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7 Simple Ways to Strengthen Interoception

Relational skills are grounded in resourceful responses to the sensory data we receive from our environments & other people. Learning to strengthen interoception directly influences your capacity to identify physiological needs, regulate emotions, and connect relationally.
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The 4 Attachment Styles; The Complete Easy-to-Use Guide to Attachment in Your Relationship

The latest trend in popular psychology is exploring attachment theory, and how that influences us as individuals in our various relationships. Tara Thomas & Kia Handley talk about the different attachment styles, how attachment styles influence relationships, and what can we take from that into our futures. [Includes audio & full transcript]
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When Can I Stop Calling Myself Divorced

So you've moved on from your marriage, started the next chapter(s) of your life, but somehow this question keeps coming up; What is your marital status? Tara Thomas & Kia Handley talk about the considerations around whether to use that label, and what it means to be 'divorced'. [Includes audio & full transcript]
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What Are Emotions? A Bonus Compilation of Explainer Break Downs

This is some pretty helpful background information about emotions, what are emotions, and how do they work, entirely borrowed from my Instagram posts which you can view below on this page, or browse @the.sugar.doctor at your leisure. Table of Contents What Are Emotions? View original post in full on IG here. What is an Emotion…
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Are Office Romances a Bad Idea?

What are the pros and cons when you are considering an office romance? Kia Handley and The Sugar Doctor talk about navigating love in the workplace. . [Includes audio & full transcript]
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Sex and Porn: How to Talk About It

There's a big gap in reality between sex and porn, Kia Handley and The Sugar Doctor discuss how to talk about the issue of sexual expectations that arise from online porn. [Includes audio & full transcript]
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How To Protect Your Personal Boundaries as Restrictions Ease

Personal boundaries have changed rapidly during the COVID-19 pandemic, Kia Handley and The Sugar Doctor discuss how to identify and maintain our personal boundaries as restrictions ease. [Includes audio & full transcript]
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From Partner to Carer: Navigating Difficult Role Transition

Making the transition from partner to carer can be sudden and provide a big challenge to your relationship. Kia Handley and The Sugar Doctor talk about how to navigate shifting dynamics in your relationship when one partner requires an additional level of care due to illness, accident, or disability. [Includes audio & full transcript]
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Never Text Your Ex at Christmas!

Don't text your ex at Christmas! Discover what does it mean to be "marleyed", and why you should never text your ex at Christmas (except in this one scenario!) Kia Handley and The Sugar Doctor talk about A Christmas Carol and the Ghost of Exes Past. [Includes audio & full transcript]
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How to Say Sorry (and Really Mean It)

How to say sorry is so fundamental to our relationships, that it ought to be taught at every level of education. Why do people find it so hard to say sorry? And what constitutes a great apology? [Includes audio & full transcript]
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Is it Bad to Have a Relationship Age Gap?

How many decades can your relationship handle? And is there an acceptable relationship age gap? There is still a lot of stigma around age gaps between couples, especially when the older partner is a hetero woman. Kia Handley and The Sugar Doctor talk about navigating age gaps when you are dating or in a relationship. [Includes audio & full transcript]
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Relationship Memories & Objects We Shared

Relationship memories can feel joyful, painful, or remind you of heartbreak. How do ‘things’ trigger memories? And what should we do with the objects we shared? Kia Handley and The Sugar Doctor discuss the Museum of Broken Relationships, and what to do with Things after a relationship has ended. [Full Transcript Below] Contents; AudioEpisode Transcript:What…
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Your Attachment Style and How You Argue

What are attachment styles and how do they influence the way we approach conflict with our partners?
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Do Unresolvable Issues Mean Game Over?

How do you know the difference between solvable and unresolvable issues in your relationship? And does it mean that you’re incompatible and should break up? Kia Handley and The Sugar Doctor talk about how to navigate conflict when you just can’t agree. [Full Transcript Below] Audio You can listen to the show live on Monday…
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