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What is a Negative Anchor? (And how did kissing become yuck?)

Woman in singlet drying armpit with hairdryer

I threw out Jimmy T’s deodorant in the early days of our cohabitation. I waited til he went to work and quietly, stealthily, snuck out to the bin and hid it under some stinky rubbish. See, I have been telling him for a while that I didn’t like it. That it smelt yuk. He would…

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The Little Things [Wake Up!]

Image of Couple in Bed with Woman resting head on mans lap feeding him pizza. There is a guitar leaning against the wall.

For a long time the first thing I thought in the morning was “You’ve got to be kidding me…” I am NOT a morning person, and the soft light waking me from our Lumie is UNwelcome. I’d kick straight into “ugh, jobs”. And that meant that my beloved Jimmy T received a full serve of…

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Time Apart Will Bring You Together

Super quick tip today: Spend time apart. Many couples think that to deepen their connection, they need to spend more time together. I disagree. The key is to spend quality time together, and create a support framework that means you each get at least 4 consecutive hours every week to have time apart. That means…

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The Little Things [Put Down the Phone]

a smart phone with a broken screen that has a bandaid. There is a rose next to the phone.

This is a big challenge for me. I spend A LOT of time on my phone. I read kindle books, listen to audio books, check email (and ALL the social) and just generally dick around. It’s a problem for my capacity to focus, for my ability to connect, for my wellness. There are some great…

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Are you Willing to Roll the Dice on Your Relationship?

What happens in relationships, most of the time, is that over time people grow apart. That’s because they cruise along, dealing with things as they arise, and they never lift their eyes from the path to get curious about what else is possible. When a couple fails to dream together, they close ALL OF THE…

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