Hi, I'm Tara and I'm a Relationship Coach based at Toronto, on picturesque Lake Macquarie in Newcastle. Through my online programs, coaching, and workshops, I teach couples & individuals how to discover the art to a lifetime of love.
My mission is to share those strategies that will dramatically improve the intimacy, passion, and connection in your relationship and teach you to manage conflict in a healthy, positive way. Along with the deeper understanding of each other, you will take home tools, and tips to support your relationship in your everyday lives.
My no BS approach means we will cut right through the layers of shit and get to the heart of what is happening. My compassion & insight will support BOTH of you to express your desires, to feel truly heard and understood, and reignite your passion.
WHY I DO WHAT I DO
For many years I struggled in my relationships. I felt unloved, unsupported, and disconnected. I kept attracting partners who didn't give a shit about our relationship, and were only interested in engaging on a superficial level. I always believed there had to be more.
We’d been to marriage counsellors. It was fucked. They were going through a process without any insight into what was really happening for us. My partners put on a fake front. They'd say all the ‘right things’, then we'd get home nothing would change. I felt profoundly betrayed.
I'm not going to bang on about my 'journey'
Because it’s not a fucking journey. It’s a series of days and weeks and choices and actions that all add up to make the sum total of your life. There are really hard bits, unfair bits and stupid decisions. There are glorious successes, joyful moments, and wonderful people.
I don’t want to make this a page about how I did the thing and as a result now have the perfect relationship that you should all want. That’s just not true. Jimmy T and I certainly have our highs and lows. We are also committed and loving & kind through it all. We choose each other and choose to problem solve, make it better, and build a joyful life together.
What I have come to believe through a slow evolution of thinking, lots of applied learning, and working with hundreds of people, is that there is no one answer to how to do this thing we call relating.
What there IS are a bunch of helpful strategies that will help YOU navigate your way to what works best in YOUR relationship. That will probably be different in many ways to what everyone around you does. That’s what makes it cool.
What Matters to Me
I’m a pretty quiet soul. I love nothing better than to hang out with Jimmy T and my two dogs Billy & Roo Beans (um, they even have their own Insta @billyandroobeans). My three favorite activities are gardening, going to the beach, and coffee & chats. I'm a bit sweary, and think life is too short to not follow your dreams.
I work really hard to live my values, so they are a great litmus test for your compatibility with me;
Courage. BEING the person I want to be is the most important thing in the world to me. Relating to people and living a brave life is the hardest thing I've ever chosen to do.
What that means is; choosing to have difficult conversations instead of ghosting people or being passive aggressive, speaking out against behaviour that conflicts with my values, setting really clear boundaries with others, and asking for what I really want.
I can't tell you how hard it is, sometimes I just want to give up. BUT, the results speak for themselves, and the relationships I have are rich, and have depth, and continue to grow.
Kindness. Being generous in my assumptions of people. Knowing that everyone has their own personal shit-storm from time to time and presuming the best of them. That means I am first & foremost kind to myself. This can be challenging because at times it is in direct conflict with my desire to people please, but it is my number one value so I work REALLY HARD on this!
Sustainability. I choose to GET things second-hand. In part, because I like to invest my money in other ways, like education & adventure. I also love the rich history of things that have their own stories. But it’s mostly because we live in a world of finite resources and making new ‘stuff’ is an energetic waste. I am actively working to minimise my footprint on this green earth.
This translates too into the way I DO things. I am not into massive rapid change because I don’t believe that the energy required to maintain those changes are sustainable from a personal or relational perspective. Small iterative change over time is my jam.
So, what now?
There's no sell here. You'll know pretty quickly whether you like me or not, and whether you think I get you.
When you are ready to take the next step, you can phone or text me on 0423 953 366, email me at email@example.com, or book an initial call directly into my calendar. Because the work is hard, but the reward is passion, meaning, and freedom. I say HELLS YEAH!
WHAT CLIENTS SAY?
KIND WORDS FROM MY LOVELY CLIENTS
Working with Tara was an amazing experience. Her style of communication and no-nonsense approach to problem-solving really resonated with me. During the sessions, I learnt a tremendous amount about myself, and how relationships actually work. The experience has helped me to develop a much better understanding of how to resolve conflicts and respond to the emotional needs of others. I highly recommend giving it a go!
Tara has been the catalyst of teaching me a whole new way to love and be loved. I’m madly in love with my man and even though my relationship has been through the wringer; with Tara’s wisdom, support and wealth of knowledge, I have been able to navigate it all successfully and be even more in love than ever. I feel secure, know how to pilot treacherous waters and all thanks to Tara.
As a bi-sexual woman in an ethical non- monogamous ( polyamorous) relationship with some pretty serious deep seeded self-esteem issues, I have encountered my fair share of rock bottom moments in my relationship. Whenever I need a reality check, a wise word or an incredible technique, Tara has been there to assist me with exactly what I need.
She knows when I need to set boundaries, when I need to put my big girl panties on and be the grown up, when I need to slow down and when I need more self care. She makes me work but sure as shit knows her stuff. I cannot recommend this phenomenal human any higher. Do yourself (and your relationship) a favour and get in touch. She’s the bomb.
"Tara enabled me to see how I could build my own confidence up and the things I could change to make me a better partner. I feel I have more choices than the two I initially though I had in regards to my relationship. I also found a way to move forward and know there is more than one answer!"
"Tara was able to provide us with some really usefully and tangible tools and info to work with. The outcomes for us were that we were able to really highlight the things that are important to us and put into perspective the trivial things."
“Tara was recommended to me and I wish I had of made the time to see her sooner. I was frustrated and at a point where I did not know how to deal with what I was feeling and frustrated with myself when trying to communicate with my partner and not being able to improve things. Tara helped me identify areas that I was needing help in and gave me the tools to not only recognise when it was happening but also be able to work through it.
I would recommend Tara to all individuals and couples because she will help you be the best version of yourself and be a better partner”.
- Internationally Certified Extended DISC Consultant & Trainer
- Completed Level 1 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy
- Certified Practitioner Neuro-Linguistic Programming
- Certified Practitioner Deep State Re-Patterning
- Certified Instant Insight Communication Systems™ Relationship Coach
- Certified Instant Insight Communication Systems™ Sex Coach
- Trained in Alice Haemmerle’s Client Code™